Blind Dates

Should I be flattered or massively offended that everyone I know seems to want to set me up with someone? I am perfectly content in God for the time being and I hardly see how jumping into a random relationship will satisfy me or what my heart wants. What it will satisfy is the social requirement that we seem to have developed in our culture. We have this idea that in order to be happy, we need to be in a relationship and if we are not, there must be something horribly wrong with us.

This simple small lie has caused so much damaged to so many people. Too many couples cling to each other only because they are afraid to be alone. I love being single. I've been in a couple of relationships with completely the wrong people and I will be slow and prayerful before I jump into another one.

So for future reference, please do not try to set me up with anyone. I'm the weird kind of girl who gets really uncomfortable when guys I don't know start flirting with me so I'm not going to jump at the chance to have a whole evening of that.

Today at work, the only man that works at our salon asked me "if I had found a boyfriend yet". I wanted to say "I'm not looking" but instead, to be polite, I said "Nope". Take a deep breath. What came next will have you peeing your pants you'll be laughing so hard. He said in his thick English accent "Well I know a nice young guy that you might be interested in. He comes on my Mini Cooper tours around Niagara Falls and Toronto. Would you want to come and meet him? You don't have to touch him or kiss him or anything, I just thought, nothing ventured nothing gained." And then he went on for a few minutes about how nice his car was. (For the record, the kind of guy I'd be interested in would probably drive a really crappy car because he'd probably be a Philanthropist like me). So I asked "What is a Mini Cooper Tour?" and he told me that a few guys get into their Mini Coopers and go on a road trip for the weekend and stay in a nice hotel in Niagara Falls. Again to be polite, I said "Um, maybe" so he said he'd ask me again later. I should mention that this is the first conversation I've ever had with this man. Most of the time he is completely cold to me. Which, I now prefer to him asking me to come on blind-date-road-trips. Where did he expect me to sleep? I can only laugh at such a completely un-me proposal. And I'm dreading the next time he brings that up.



I think part of the reason set ups bother me so much is because I want to be pursued. I want to be romanced. And I want a man who is manly enough to lay down his pride and make a fool out of himself trying to get my attention. I would say if there is one thing that every woman wants, it's this: to have a man, and I mean a real man, pursue her and make her feel important, and special, and desired. And I don't count asking your friend to his wife to ask me if I'll hang out with you, being bold.